So what if I didn't get everything done on the list I made today at work?
So what if the twins went to bed an hour later if it meant taking Cherub in the jogging stroller for some QT with him and a family (foster though it may be) dinner with John and the twins, and they enjoyed a beautiful WA spring evening in the backyard with Jill while John grilled?
So what if I'm going to bed later than I planned if it meant watching "The Office" with John?
What matters is that we had a lovely evening with happy twins. Let the madness of their case swirl around us. Their lives will be peaceful and happy.
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Friday, May 13, 2011
"To love is to burn - to be on fire"
Tonight, I'm sitting at the kitchen table on John's mac and enjoying a glass of red wine while thinking about the events of the day. John has just left with a gradeschool/highschool friend to see "Thor." Um, no thank you. :)
We got the kids up 15 minutes early so that they could have breakfast before we got ready for their all day visit with their father. Their daycare was closed today for a training session, so I asked both the caseworker and their father that if at all possible, could the visit be today since I had to be at work and child care was closed. Both agreed.
Wouldn't you know it that 30 minutes before I drove 40 minutes to take the bubs to the ferry, I picked up my phone. On it was a text from bio-dad from 4:25 am saying that his boss had a medical emergency and he was at the ER with him. "We may have to change plans." I admit that I saw red.
He canceled last Friday because it was raining and he had planned all outdoor things. (The children may not go to his place until the caseworker approves it.) So, he asked if Saturday would work. Yes, that would be great. I could go to work to make up some time and get the house cleaned for the Mother's Day brunch we were hosting. Wouldn't you know that he called 20 minutes before the kids and I left for the ferry that his public transit card was empty because DSHS hadn't reloaded it. This being the case, it cut too much into his visit budget to have the kids that day.
So, I should not have been surprised that a boss (whose health problems are bad) takes precedence over this birth father's own children. Thank God for my mom (Mimi to her grand kids) and staying with them so that I could get to work. The dad said he didn't remember my email saying that today the kids' daycare was closed because he had a 'busy week.' Join the club, dude.
John and I were talking about the children's parents tonight. They love their children, but not like a parent should. It reminded us of that scene in "Sense and Sensibility" where Eleanor is comforting Marianne when Willoughby leaves her for a woman of fortune. She tells her, "Whatever his past actions, whatever his present course... at least you may be certain that he loved you." Marianne replies, "But not enough. Not enough."
We got the kids up 15 minutes early so that they could have breakfast before we got ready for their all day visit with their father. Their daycare was closed today for a training session, so I asked both the caseworker and their father that if at all possible, could the visit be today since I had to be at work and child care was closed. Both agreed.
Wouldn't you know it that 30 minutes before I drove 40 minutes to take the bubs to the ferry, I picked up my phone. On it was a text from bio-dad from 4:25 am saying that his boss had a medical emergency and he was at the ER with him. "We may have to change plans." I admit that I saw red.
He canceled last Friday because it was raining and he had planned all outdoor things. (The children may not go to his place until the caseworker approves it.) So, he asked if Saturday would work. Yes, that would be great. I could go to work to make up some time and get the house cleaned for the Mother's Day brunch we were hosting. Wouldn't you know that he called 20 minutes before the kids and I left for the ferry that his public transit card was empty because DSHS hadn't reloaded it. This being the case, it cut too much into his visit budget to have the kids that day.
So, I should not have been surprised that a boss (whose health problems are bad) takes precedence over this birth father's own children. Thank God for my mom (Mimi to her grand kids) and staying with them so that I could get to work. The dad said he didn't remember my email saying that today the kids' daycare was closed because he had a 'busy week.' Join the club, dude.
John and I were talking about the children's parents tonight. They love their children, but not like a parent should. It reminded us of that scene in "Sense and Sensibility" where Eleanor is comforting Marianne when Willoughby leaves her for a woman of fortune. She tells her, "Whatever his past actions, whatever his present course... at least you may be certain that he loved you." Marianne replies, "But not enough. Not enough."
Nie Nie on 20/20
If you read The Nie Nie Dialogues, you’ll want to tune into 20/20 Friday. Elizabeth Vargas reports on Stephanie and her family since the plane crash which burned her over 80% of her body. Stephanie’s story is one of hope, inspiration, the gift of family and the power of prayer. Check your local listings and click here for a preview.
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Giveaway!
My talented friend, Grace, is having a giveaway on her blog. Run over and check it out and leave a comment for a chance at winning this book!
Our Field of Little Flowers: Receive the Holy Spirit
Our Field of Little Flowers: Receive the Holy Spirit
Sunday, May 8, 2011
Happy Mother's Day
To all mothers:
Biological mothers
Adoptive mothers
Foster Mothers
Future Mothers
Mothers who made a loving and sacrificial choice and placed their children with a forever family
Mothers whose children are in foster care
Mothers whose children have gone before them
Mothers of aborted children
God bless you and give you peace on Mother's Day!
May the Blessed Mother be your guide and comfort.
Biological mothers
Adoptive mothers
Foster Mothers
Future Mothers
Mothers who made a loving and sacrificial choice and placed their children with a forever family
Mothers whose children are in foster care
Mothers whose children have gone before them
Mothers of aborted children
God bless you and give you peace on Mother's Day!
May the Blessed Mother be your guide and comfort.
Friday, May 6, 2011
7 Quick Takes
1. For the last several weeks, I've felt really awful. Vomiting, runs, stomach pain, no appetite. On my second visit to my primary, he ordered a blood draw and stool collection. This is even less glamorous than it sounds. :) I wasn't sure what to expect as far as results, but what I DIDN'T expect was the actual result: giardia. So, after 3 of 10 days on anti-biotics, I'm on the mend.
2. The twins have had two all day visits with their father. Today they were supposed to have one, but it was switched to tomorrow due to the rain, and the fact that his plan was a park and a picnic. The kids can’t go to his house yet, because the case worker needs to approve it first. This works out well for me that the kids will be gone all day Saturday, since it means I can go into work to catch up a little and then get the house cleaned for Mother’s Day. What stinks is that John has a long drive tomorrow starting at 5:30am for a PT student volunteer day way out in No Man’s Land, Washington.
3. We’ll have a Mother’s Day Brunch at our house this Sunday. John’s Dad, my dad and John will provide the food. I would like to make cinnamon rolls, since I’ve never made them before.
4. Cherub is fighting the potty training much less and has actually pee-peed standing up a few times recently. WOO-HOO!! He gets half a cupcake which is a wonderful reward to him. His sister, who uses the big toilet all the time (but is still not fully potty-trained), said she wanted a cupcake. I told her that she needed to do something special on there like #2. I think it fell on deaf ears, but we negotiated down to a little cookie.
5. Since my sister and her family are moving to Brasilia in August, I am trying to plan a short trip to the DC area to visit them. The last time I got on a plane was 2.5 years ago for my bro’s wedding in Dallas. Not looking forward to the body scan. Hmm, that reminds me that I should bust out the Zumba DVDs.
6. Our beautiful niece and my goddaughter, Lili, could use your prayers. She has a more serious form of epilepsy than originally thought. She and my sister are spending four days in the hospital to monitor any and all seizures. Right now, my brother and sister-in-law are in Melbourne visiting Kate and her family, and I’m glad they are there for moral support.
7. We had a photo session for the twins in honor of their third birthday! I wish I could post photos which really show their faces, because they are such beautiful children. Our talented and creative friend, Krystal, spent about 2 hours with us at a local park and ran around capturing very active moments and quiet moments of the kids. She did a superb job.
2. The twins have had two all day visits with their father. Today they were supposed to have one, but it was switched to tomorrow due to the rain, and the fact that his plan was a park and a picnic. The kids can’t go to his house yet, because the case worker needs to approve it first. This works out well for me that the kids will be gone all day Saturday, since it means I can go into work to catch up a little and then get the house cleaned for Mother’s Day. What stinks is that John has a long drive tomorrow starting at 5:30am for a PT student volunteer day way out in No Man’s Land, Washington.
3. We’ll have a Mother’s Day Brunch at our house this Sunday. John’s Dad, my dad and John will provide the food. I would like to make cinnamon rolls, since I’ve never made them before.
4. Cherub is fighting the potty training much less and has actually pee-peed standing up a few times recently. WOO-HOO!! He gets half a cupcake which is a wonderful reward to him. His sister, who uses the big toilet all the time (but is still not fully potty-trained), said she wanted a cupcake. I told her that she needed to do something special on there like #2. I think it fell on deaf ears, but we negotiated down to a little cookie.
5. Since my sister and her family are moving to Brasilia in August, I am trying to plan a short trip to the DC area to visit them. The last time I got on a plane was 2.5 years ago for my bro’s wedding in Dallas. Not looking forward to the body scan. Hmm, that reminds me that I should bust out the Zumba DVDs.
6. Our beautiful niece and my goddaughter, Lili, could use your prayers. She has a more serious form of epilepsy than originally thought. She and my sister are spending four days in the hospital to monitor any and all seizures. Right now, my brother and sister-in-law are in Melbourne visiting Kate and her family, and I’m glad they are there for moral support.
7. We had a photo session for the twins in honor of their third birthday! I wish I could post photos which really show their faces, because they are such beautiful children. Our talented and creative friend, Krystal, spent about 2 hours with us at a local park and ran around capturing very active moments and quiet moments of the kids. She did a superb job.
Friday, April 29, 2011
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