This is a new blog category: The F(oster) Files. The first entry is a funny tale about a well-meaning parishioner. As many of you know, Cherub, (a boy) has beautiful curly, long hair that is up in a ponytail every day. Add on his long eyelashes, big brown eyes and a beautiful face, he looks like a girl. However, he is always dressed as a boy, in blues, oranges, greens, Toy Story stuff, dump truck stuff, and a suit and tie for Easter Mass. No matter how masculine we dress him, people still think he is a girl. I guess people must reason away the masculine clothes??
Anyway, I found out from our pastor that someone (his brother) told him about a couple who dresses their little girl like a boy. Father started laughing because he knew that we were ‘the couple.” His brother earnestly said, “No, you don’t get it. They dress her in a suit and tie!” Father and I were laughing so hard about it.
What makes me wonder is how many other people who don’t know us think that? I don’t really care, because there is nothing we can do about his hair other than keep it clean and out of his face. This well meaning young dad was kindly concerned about Cherub and our judgment, but for Pete’s sake, we’re at Mass and going up to Communion, and still the suit and tie didn’t make one think, “Maybe it’s a boy with long hair.” The conclusion was made that we were dressing a girl as a boy. It is funny, a little frustrating at times, but not as frustrating as the situation with the kids’ case. Your prayers are most welcome.
The next time I see the nice young dad, I will joke with him about it and introduce Cherub as “Our little tranny.” ;)
2 comments:
too, too funny! Glad that both Father and you got to see the humor in it.
It is sad that due to the biological parent's preference of hair length, foster parents are not permitted to cut their hair. One of our foster daughters had such long bangs in her face and was hampered by them - but bio mom was adamant that the hair not be cut or clipped back - so during visits they were not.
Perhaps, though, since this is one of the only areas the bio parents have control, it is understandable.
Cherub - a girl dressed as a boy ... still chuckling!
I agree--if I were the bio parent, and the only control I really had was the power over the hair, I'd be clinging to that power.
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